We are a society that is prone to moving through life at 100 miles per hour. Between jobs, kids and family, people today rarely take time to just stop and reflect about their priorities, or simply recharge their “life battery.”
In my profession as a sex therapist, I often ask my patients to list their top five priorities. Most of the time, the patient never puts themselves in the top five.
I’m a big believer in self-care, meaning putting life on hold and taking care of you. I know many women who run themselves ragged getting things done at work, running kids to sporting events, getting dinner on the table and taking care of their spouses, which leaves little “me time”.
I have to admit, I don’t always practice what I preach, but that’s about to change!
I’m due to have my first child any day now and will be going on maternity leave, so this is my last blog until 2014. It is difficult to write that because I love sharing my thoughts and advice with you in this space, but that’s what self-care is about. Even the things we love have to take a back seat to taking care of ourselves and in my case, me and my new baby.
As my delivery day and ensuing maternity leave approaches, I’ve decided to share with you how I’ve been preparing for this phase of my own self-care. I am hopeful my process will be helpful to you.
Sit down and ask your self what are your priorities.
Start by asking yourself “what is important to me?” That list should be what you want it to be, not what you think it should be. This also isn’t a list of your daily comings and goings – it’s not a list involving your job or getting your kids to and fro. It’s a list about you. Look within yourself and make this list about YOUR priorities to better yourself.
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It is 2013 and we can’t walk through the mall or drive down the street without seeing someone on their cell phone.
As a sex therapist at Methodist Physicians Clinic Women’s Center I work with many people who complain about how much their significant other uses their cell phone or iPad.
I spend so much of my time working with couples on their communication skills and how best to express themselves to each other. So, all of this technology and our dependence on it, is a bit scary to me.
I think the olden days were so spot on when it came to communication. My grandparents are the perfect example. Married for many years, they made it through good and bad times without the help of Facebook or some app to make things better.
I still have a love letter my grandfather wrote to my grandmother when they were dating in the 1920s. It serves as a little reminder that the old school ways were very powerful when it came to romance. I’m not sure that heartfelt meaning could be portrayed in a text message or email given today’s techie society.
Now don’t get me wrong, I like a good mobile app just as much as everyone else. They can have a role in helping a couple reconnect or get out of a rut.
Some of today’s apps can even jump-start a couple’s creativity and lead to a better connection in or out of the bedroom.
So get out your phone or your tablet and let’s take a look at some of the more popular romance apps available today.
If you want to enhance your romantic bond:
- Kahnoodle: Provides points every time you do something thoughtful for your significant other. After you collect so many points you can earn discounts at retailers like Best Buy and Amazon. This is a great app for someone who might need that reminder when it comes to romance. It can also serve as a reminder for activities.
- Avocado: Allows couples to share calendars, grocery lists, or upcoming date nights. It also allows couples to send virtual hugs and kisses to each other. This app also works for those who don’t have smart phones, since it can be accessed by Google play. This might be a good option for those couples whose lives are a bit more chaotic, and could use some virtual “thinking of you” help!
- Betterhalf: Provides instant suggestions for restaurants and movies in your area. I love this app. Another cool feature is that it keeps track of your favorite date spots. If that isn’t enough, it will send a notification to your partner, allowing them to confirm or deny the evening’s festivities.
- Couple: Helps couples track their romantic history. It helps couples reminisce about good times, draw pictures, video chat, or send messages to each other. It eliminates the possibility of sending that sexy message to your mom instead of your partner, so you can be as naughty and creative as you like.
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